A Speech on How to Be Happy Being Single

Well it’s twenty first century and obviously a very perfect time to break all stereotypes and myths about being single. Movies and television shows seem to push the concept into our head and that makes you think like you are not your truly “complete” self until you’ve found a significant other.

They portrait people with soul mates are the happiest ones and those who do not have a soul mate are just enduring their life until they find one. It is so stereotypical and mythical that a 2008 study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology found that single people are often thought to be unhappy by others.

So, a single person being unhappy is actually nothing but a thought that society and films pushed in our head. As per experts, these stereotypes couldn’t go any further and takes us away from the truth anymore. In fact, the 2008 study also showed that self reported well-being of a single person was similar to the participants in relationships. And there is handful of benefits that comes along with living our life free of a romantic relationships or soul mates.

I will mention few benefits here. As per relationships expert and bestselling author Susas winter “Believe it or not, relationships are ‘mentally’ expensive,” and we admit it or not in deep down we all know that it is true to some extent no matter you are single or have a soul mate. “Intimacy and partnership takes up a lot of space in our heads. Even though much of this is happening unconsciously, there’s simply a lesser capacity for individually focused thought.”

Winter takes the facts to light that people in relationships are mostly spend their precious time to worry about their partners and, sometimes, ruminating on even the smallest quarrels, as “the price of love.” This sort of stress takes people’s happiness away by keeping them from living in the present, she says. Conversely, “being single is an act of purging the clutter and making room for new thoughts (and dreams) to breathe and grow,” she added.

 Being single can make people more strong and self sufficient because when you are alone you have to do maximum things on your own. You have time to think about yourself. “People say a lot of times, when they’re in relationships, that they’ve lost themselves,” says Dr. Dardashti. “And that’s largely because we stop doing things independently.”

clinical psychologist and author of the book How to Be Single and Happy,Dr. Taitzlooks at being single as a opportunity to figure out our own personal “mission statement.”“When we’re not in a relationship we really have some time to get clear about what matters to us and what we value,” she explains.

You can make yourself your first priority. Every one of us needs space and you can have a lot of it when you are single. You can learn to enjoy your own company and as per most of people’s experience it is the best way to be happy. You will not need anyone or not have to depend on anyone to be happy.

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